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Post by doc on Aug 12, 2019 13:38:17 GMT
Our daughter recently interviewed for a very nice promotion within her company - they actually approached her about the position and after going through the interview process they offered her the job on Friday. She got a great salary increase, tremendous bonus opportunities, a car and all relocations fees are covered - yes, she has to move from Detroit to Minneapolis. It makes me sad to see her move farther away but I'm very proud of her success and know she'll continue to thrive with her company. If she does continue to do well she'll probably be in Minneapolis for a couple years and have other promotion opportunites at that time.
In addition to her work she found a boyfriend in Michigan - she hasn't come out and said it but we're pretty sure she's fallen in love - I do know she's been very happy (and she's always been a very happy person) and life seemed to be going in a perfect direction. Well last night they had a talk and the boyfriend doesn't think he can handle a long-distance relationship, our daughter thought he'd feel otherwise. He was actually supposed to come home with her this weekend and meet the family but now that's been cancelled. So in the space of 2 days she went from a tremendous high to a very sad low. This has been her first real boyfriend, she went to al all girl high school and studying chemical engineering in college didn't want to complicate life with a boyfriend. She moved to Detroit after college not knowing anyone and it took a while for her to get acclimated. She's been dating this guy about 6 months and it's been fun hearing her talk about him and all they've been doing. I really thought they'd give it a try but I guess he did it once before and it didn't work so he's apprehensive. She's pretty torn up about it and as her dad I'm just trying to say the right things to help her get through this.
She's a great kid, I know she'll be fine but it sucks to see her feel so sad at a time when she should be full of excitement. Her brother actually broke up with his girlfriend a couple years ago, about a year later they got back together and now they're getting married New Years Eve - I guess absence made the heart grow fonder, maybe that will happen with our daughter. She's still coming home this weekend, I'm looking forward to giving her a big hug.
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Post by Bevo on Aug 12, 2019 13:54:19 GMT
A hug will do a lot of good.
My youngest son is visiting from California this weekend. He has really good female friend who drove 3 hours to come visit him yesterday. They've been best friends since he first went to college. We SO WISH they'd find a way to be together, on a more permanent basis. They're BOTH perfect for each other. But, they seem to be stuck in Friendsville.
He does have another girl, from his High School days, that he's recently met again in California. He's pretty excited about that. So, we'll see. But, watching him with this other friend is like watching "When Harry Met Sally" in live action.
Let's hope she's able to work out something.
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Post by doc on Aug 12, 2019 15:35:38 GMT
I just feel bad for her - if he would have been willing to try and it didn't work out that's one thing but to just cut it off was rough on her. She'll be in Detroit till October 1 so they could have tried to work it out, I don't know. But there's no sense investing more time in a relationship that one of the parties doesn't want to give it a shot. Maybe time will lead to a different conclusion but if not, she'll be fine although she may not jump back into the dating pool for a while.
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Post by Bevo on Aug 12, 2019 20:14:27 GMT
she may not jump back into the dating pool for a while. LOL Doc, I've talked with your daughter, seen her resume, and seen a photo.... She's FAR to accomplished, friendly, and beautiful to "stay out of the dating pool". The pool will come and FIND her! She'll find the right person... apparently, this guy isn't it. What a moron he must be. |
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Post by doc on Aug 12, 2019 20:58:59 GMT
I mean with her move to Minnesota, she'll probably need to get acclimated and survive the winter before she's ready to get back in the game. No sense in trying to drum up something in Michigan since she'll only be there a couple more months. I talked with her today she's hanging in there - looking forward to seeing the family this weekend!
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Post by ajbuckeye on Aug 14, 2019 16:26:47 GMT
Sounds like your daughter is doing amazingly well. Good for her that she is continuing to follow her dream. If she and this guy are truly in love they will find their way back to each other.
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Post by doc on Aug 14, 2019 17:36:50 GMT
We never met the boyfriend - as fate would have it he was going to come home with our daughter this weekend to meet everyone. She actually spent the 4th of July weekend with his family at Lake Michigan. He apparently had a log distance relationship that didn't work out and I guess that's why he didn't want to go into another one. Our daughter has been pretty sad the past few days but she said she's working through it. I just wish he would have given it a chance - our daughter would have made it work if given the chance, she's a very committed young lady.
They have talked since the break up and they do have feelings for each other. I told her what you said, if it's meant to be it will happen.
Ironically, a little over 2 years ago our son was in a pretty serious relationship and his girlfriend broke it off. We're Catholic and she's not and she really struggled with the spiritual part of the relationship. My son was devastated. We were pretty sad as well as she was a great influence on our son and a very caring person. I told my son at the time if it's meant to be it will happen. He dated another girl for a while but she didn't measure up to the first win. Well last August he told us that he had been talking with the girl he broke up with and soon they were back together, stronger than ever, and on New Year's Eve they're getting married. So you never know - we couldn't be happier but now we need to see what happens with our daughter. Even when they're adults and on their own your kids need you!
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Post by Bevo on Aug 14, 2019 17:56:56 GMT
Even when they're adults and on their own your kids need you! I don't think that EVER changes...
My heart broke yesterday as I dropped my son off at the airport..... even though, I'm sure he was glad to be getting back to his life. I just wish he could find a great girl. Life is SO MUCH better when you have someone close who supports you. So many times in my life, MamaBevo has been the ONLY THING that has kept my train on the tracks (well... at least near enough to the track to find it again).
He's a GREAT kid. Smart, funny, honest, healthy... doesn't smoke, do drugs... barely ever even drinks. Some young lady is going to hit the jackpot.
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Post by ajbuckeye on Aug 23, 2019 3:48:22 GMT
Even when they're adults and on their own your kids need you! I don't think that EVER changes...
My heart broke yesterday as I dropped my son off at the airport..... even though, I'm sure he was glad to be getting back to his life. I just wish he could find a great girl. Life is SO MUCH better when you have someone close who supports you. So many times in my life, MamaBevo has been the ONLY THING that has kept my train on the tracks (well... at least near enough to the track to find it again).
He's a GREAT kid. Smart, funny, honest, healthy... doesn't smoke, do drugs... barely ever even drinks. Some young lady is going to hit the jackpot.
My parents are still alive but struggling. My life was made much better and easier having their support well into my 30s and 40s. Now the tables are turned and now I am in payback mode as they are aging and now they are relying on primarily my brother and myself as we are the only ones local. It was tough on them to relinquish control but they realized that it was the best decision and were comfortable with it. On the other side of it, my daughter and son are in the same position that I was in 30+ years ago. One thing that I did not know was how much we need our kids. Doc, I remember you telling your story about when you were battling cancer and your daughter was there to support you every step of the way. My daughter and I have a similar relationship and I know she would be there if I ever had to go through what you have. |
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Post by doc on Aug 23, 2019 14:14:01 GMT
Doc, I remember you telling your story about when you were battling cancer and your daughter was there to support you every step of the way. My daughter and I have a similar relationship and I know she would be there if I ever had to go through what you have. That was easily the most difficult time of my life but I can't think back at that time without smiling -I'll never forget the time we spent together, she made that experience memorable in all the right ways and certainly helped me put into perspective the important things in life. Thanks, now you have me crying at work...
My parents were heavy smokers and both died at 67. It was tough to watch them go through their illnesses. My brother-in-law went into cardiac arrest back in May and currently is in a nursing home - he's 60 and bed ridden, can't talk and they don't know if he'll ever be able to have a quality of life. He does show signs of improvement but he certainly wouldn't want to live like he's currently living. Anyway, I go and visit and I see all these elderly people sitting around in wheel chairs and it's heart breaking. It's great that you are able to support your parents - I'm sure they appreciate it. Can't think of anything worse than being alone in a nursing home with no family support.
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Post by Bevo on Aug 23, 2019 14:28:30 GMT
Great. Now, I'm crying in China. That's probably illegal here.
Coming home tomorrow.
Can't wait.
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Post by Hero on Aug 23, 2019 22:54:34 GMT
Doc, I remember you telling your story about when you were battling cancer and your daughter was there to support you every step of the way. My daughter and I have a similar relationship and I know she would be there if I ever had to go through what you have. That was easily the most difficult time of my life but I can't think back at that time without smiling -I'll never forget the time we spent together, she made that experience memorable in all the right ways and certainly helped me put into perspective the important things in life. Thanks, now you have me crying at work...
My parents were heavy smokers and both died at 67. It was tough to watch them go through their illnesses. My brother-in-law went into cardiac arrest back in May and currently is in a nursing home - he's 60 and bed ridden, can't talk and they don't know if he'll ever be able to have a quality of life. He does show signs of improvement but he certainly wouldn't want to live like he's currently living. Anyway, I go and visit and I see all these elderly people sitting around in wheel chairs and it's heart breaking. It's great that you are able to support your parents - I'm sure they appreciate it. Can't think of anything worse than being alone in a nursing home with no family support.
I have made many trips to the nursing home in recent years until January when we buried my mom. My mom was vibrant and lively until the end. I thank God for that. A nursing home is a sad place for me. My joy is I know my mom is in a happy place. |
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Post by bluehen on Aug 24, 2019 12:57:56 GMT
Mrs Hen spent the last 4 months of her life in and out of nursing homes , hospitals and cancer care clinics. Painful to watch her dying and the passing was a relief. I know what you're talking about
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